Monday Motivation – #GOALS

Through every stage of life, it is important to set goals – both big and small. Dreaming and achieving are two very different things, however. So how do we reach these marks we set for ourselves?

  1. Make your goals realistic
  2. Map out what steps you need to take to succeed
  3. Manage your time wisely
  4. Understand that you may need to adjust

“Be stubborn in your goals and flexible in your methods”

For me, my life is a never ending series of lists and goals and to-dos. It’s the way I propel myself forward and stay on task. Otherwise, there’s a good chance I would spend 24 hours a day napping and watching documentaries. Oh, and all the snacking… *sigh* Usually I can organize and motivate myself well enough to succeed with ease. But there are some instances in which the task at hand gets, well, out of hand. Take this blog, for example. This year I laid out the perfect posting schedule and content. I decided on a new direction and bought new stationary (a must for any venture). What I didn’t properly take into consideration was the amount of time I would need to set aside in addition to full time schooling and work and studying and volunteering and maintaining my relationships. You get the picture. And so I fall behind. But that isn’t a reason to throw my hands up and quit. It’s time for reassessment.

So I hope you take this quote to heart, in closing.

“It’s only failure if you stop trying.”

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Bloom by Estee Lalonde

Let me preface this review by saying that Estee Lalonde is one of my favourite people ever. I’ve been watching her channel from Day 1 and completely adore her. Alright, so here comes the praise!

Bloom is the book we all wish we had at 16-20 years old. Estee imparts on the reader a wellspring of advice and compassion. In that way, Bloom is not just a book, but a companion. A life raft. I myself am 24, and lucky enough to be past the most difficult stages of self-discovery. But like the excerpt states, “Bloom is also for women who might recognize their younger selves in parts of my journey.” (9).  I truly believe women of all ages can benefit from this read.

Estee writes with candour no matter what section of the vibrantly coloured pages you flip to. From beauty, travel, and home decor, to depression, anxiety, and living your most happy and fulfilling life – the narrative is impassioned and provides a voice of understanding.

A must read, must own, for everyone.

Current Events – 01/20/17

Well, let’s get this shit over with…

In The News:

Yes, Donald Trump was inaugurated today as President of the US. I’m not even going to get into it today because I just don’t have it in me. Let the apocalypse commence.

His Education Secretary made headlines by crashing and burning in a pathetic attempt to field questions on her views of and plans for the education system. She claims to have been advocating for 30+ years, and yet doesn’t understand the difference between growth and proficiency. Someone please make it stop.

 

Trending on Twitter:

On a lighter note…

People are finding mysterious photos on their camera roll of their iPhones and I am sooooo here for it. Love it. Conspiracy theories, please – go!

 

 

 

 

 

Photo credit: Les Chroniques de Rorschach

Fashion: For It or Faux Pas

So far, the trend forecast for 2017 is one big NOPE for me. Mules? Nope. Giant baggy silk pants that look like you’re hiding Yoko Ono in there? O NO thanks. And Elle.com can try to rip on classic sneaks, “It’s now about sneakers that are embellished or have something like emojis or logos on them.”, but they’re not fooling me. Dear god if I see anyone in a platform sneaker with a tongue sticking out emoji on them I will burn your outfit while you’re still wearing it.

So what am I here for this week?

Ripped denim even in the winter, paired with fluffy scarves and black ankle boots.

Soft nude coats that Audrey and Grace would be proud of.

and…

 

CONFIDENCE.

Don’t let your New Year’s Resolutions dictate your fashion. You want to lose 10 lbs? That’s great, I’ll see you at the gym. But don’t you dare let it stop you from loving your body and buying that dress. There will always be a reason to put it off – but never a good one. Live your life now, because if you wait until they’re burying you to wear that beautiful dress, well… wouldn’t that be a waste.

#GIRLBOSS

The Book: #GIRLBOSS by Sophia Amoruso – CEO and Founder of Nasty Gal

I’ll admit that I was caught off guard by how refreshingly down-to-earth this book is. Sophia Amoruso founded and heads one of the most successful and well-known fashion retail sites, and yet somehow by the last page you feel as if you’re reading the words of the best friend you grew up with, or perhaps mores the strange older girl who took you on like a little sister. More importantly, #GIRLBOSS (and yes that hashtag is thrown in throughout the book – we’re not really sure how we feel about it…) is chalk full of real-life wisdom that anyone can put into action. Amorous also provides a glimpse into the lives of other successful women via sections entitled Portrait of a #GIRLBOSS. What I think is most powerful though, is how I felt after finishing the book. Capable. Determined. Motivated. And FREE.

I would definitely recommend.

Natural Make-Up

Natural, dewy, bronzed make-up is perfect for summer, and I’ve finally found a routine that works perfectly.

Foundation: L’Oreal TruBlend Lumi (though I actually much prefer the Tarte Amazonian Clay but I’m out at the moment) applied using a Beauty Blender

Concealer: CoverGirl ReadySetGorgeous in Creamy Natural applied using a Beauty Blender

Powder: CoverGirl oil-free compact in Creamy Natural

Bronzer/Contouring: The Balm Betty Lou-minzer

Blush: The Body Shop pressed blush in Apricot

Brows: Annabelle skinny brow pencil in Medium Brown

Eyes: MAC pressed shadow in Vanilla

Tarte Lights Camera Splashes mascara, curled and applied in one coat

Lips: lined with NYX retractable lip liner in Nude, outer portion of lips filled in with NARS Satin Lip Pencil in Rikugien, centre of lips filled with NYC Cityproof twistable lip crayon in Park Slope Peach

Very Vintage – Tooth and Eye Lookbook

Pair the Gold Astro Draco Leggings with a black lace dress for an eerily vintage effect. Great for a night out at an art show or museum. Red lips add a great finishing touch to bring the whole look together.

Shop this look: http://www.etsy,com/shop/ToothAndEye

Photo by Vin Lord

Addressing Meghan Trainor’s Ignorance

This has been a looooooong time coming.

Meghan Trainor is, in my opinion, one of the most ignorant people in pop music to date. Don’t you worry, I’m going to back that statement up. My personal views have been under wraps for quite a while now because I simply didn’t want to get involved. I left “All about that bass” alone. I kept my mouth shut (publicly) when she made a beyond idiotic statement regarding eating disorders. Let me tell you, that was difficult. Now her video “Dear Future Husband” is getting media attention for ONCE AGAIN being completely sexist and enforcing gender stereotypes and anti-feminism.

I’m not entirely sure if she’s just stupid but I know I’m about to get angry when her lips are moving. Yes I went there. So let’s look at her offences point by point.

1) All About That Bass

My problems with this song stem from my firm belief that in order to stop body-shaming we must create an inclusive and non-critical environment in which all bodies are appreciated and accepted as OK. I understand that sometimes in order to promote body positivity for an oppressed group such as plus-sized women, they must be raised up on their own movement which may not always include positive statements for ‘skinny girls’. However, wanting to promote ‘fat-acceptance’ (we’ll get to that shortly) doesn’t mean you need to straight-up call out people of other body types. IE “Go ahead and tell the skinny bitches that.”

Secondly, Meghan Trainor doesn’t even believe in her own message.

2) Hypocrisy

a – Eating Disorders

Meghan Trainor was quoted as saying: “I wasn’t strong enough to have an eating disorder. I tried to go anorexic for a good three hours. I ate ice and celery, but that’s not even anorexic. And I quit. I was like, ‘Ma, can you make me a sandwich? Like, immediately.”

I can’t even… But I must. As someone who has struggled with an eating disorder my entire life this is incredibly offensive, first off. Not to mention the incredibly awful and ignorant message it sends to people who may be struggling with body image and food. Not “strong enough” to have an eating disorder??????? Perhaps if Meghan Trainor could look outsider herself for half a second she would understand the consequences of being so vapid. Of course Demi Lovato, being the activist she is, took to Twitter saying:

“Having an eating disorder doesn’t show “strength.” Strength is when are able to overcome your demons after being sick and tired for so long.There’s a wide misconception that anorexia and/or bulimia is a choice and you often hear people say things like “why doesn’t she just start eating?” Or even “just stop throwing up.” It’s the ignorance and lack of education on mental illnesses that continues to {put} mental health care on the back burner to congress even though this is an epidemic that is sweeping our nation, and causing more and more tragedy every day. Starving is not a “diet” and throwing up isn’t something that only extremely thin men or women do. Eating disorders do not discriminate… Neither does any other mental illness. These are deadly diseases that are taking lives daily. So please, let’s be cautious of the words weuse when discussing ED’s and other mental illnesses.”

b – Weight Loss

I operate under the belief that a person’s body is no one’s business but their own. However, when you have such a large audience of young and impressionable fans, it is important to ensure that the words coming out of your mouth match the actions you are putting forth. Since the release of her single “All About That Bass” Meghan Trainor has been steadily losing weight, and her fans are noticing. Her intentions are being called into questions. Preaching ‘fat acceptance’ while clearly giving in to pressure to be thin and making comments about wishing to be thinner sends the message that loving one’s self is great in theory but in practice not so much. Clearly it’s a great tool to sell records with, though. In conjunction with the eating disorder debacle, it would be easy for young people to take away the idea that one should be anorexic while pretending love one’s self. Great…

This is the point that, for me, gets very complicated. I have mixed views about this subject because as a feminist I believe that every woman has the right to do whatever she wants with her body and I don’t think it’s right to point out someone’s weight as right or wrong. I also really don’t appreciate the ignorance and hypocrisy with which Meghan Trainor seems to be governed by in every aspect of her career. Then there’s the term ‘fat acceptance’. For those whom it has a positive connotation, I commend taking back that word and using it for a positive movement. For myself, that is a word which was used to wage war against my body every second of every day for 14 years. Thus why I use quotations around the statement. That is not meant to offend or devalue the movement, but rather a writing tool used to express my own personal struggle with it, which I cannot ignore or pretend does not still exist if I am to be honest.

3) Anti-feminist message

I feel as though I could just fill this section with quotes from her music because it would be so easy.

Let’s start with “All About That Bass”, in which she sings “My momma she told me ‘don’t worry about your size, because boys like a little more booty to hold at night’.” Yes, let’s let the opinion of boys dictate how we eat and feel about our bodies. Sounds like a great idea…

Now, with the release of “Dear Future Husband”, Meghan Trainor is getting a lot of negative press for her antiquated presentation of gender roles within the lyrics and video. She essentially sings a list of demands in which a man will have to live up to “If you wanna get that special lovin'” The entire song is very sexist and I really suggest looking up the lyrics if you’d like to see more examples.

So, there you have it. I’m so sick of women in the media saying they don’t need feminism and portraying unhealthy ideals to a vulnerable demographic. Regardless of whether you think you need feminism or not, I believe the evidence above says otherwise. I suppose you could say this is an open letter to Meghan Trainor. If she were to ever read this my words to her would be to please think before you speak. Please be honest about what you actually believe in rather than operating under the guise of body positivity and sending a confusing and contrary message to the people who listen to your music. Most importantly, please educate yourself.

-Lex

DIY – Floral Paper Lampshade

Hello internet friends!

Today’s post is a DIY, and something that I endured a number of serious burns to produce so… You’re welcome. lol. The moral of the story is really don’t give me a glue gun. This crafty number was originally found on Pinterest (of course), and I will link that below:

The Materials…

Coffee filters – I seriously used around 200, medium weight filters.

A glue gun and hot glue – USE AT YOUR OWN RISK!

A plain lampshade of your choosing – I used an old one that my darling cat had ruined as a kitten.

***I recommend using the eraser end of a pencil to push the filters onto the shade with. DO NOT USE YOUR FINGERS. Yes, I used my fingers. My left thumb is now a giant blistered mess. Disgusting AND painful.***

The Process…

Take a coffee filter, face-up in your palm. Fold your hand around it until it begins to crumple. At this point you want to grasp the end and tighten the ruffle the coffee filter has created. Fold the end that was in your palm over in a small section. This is the area you will attach. I pre-crumpled all my filters because it takes quite a number of them to cover a shade and it’s a waste of glue otherwise.

Once all your ruffles are ready, heat the glue gun and apply a small amount to the folded tip of the ruffle and hold to the shade. As I said before, use a pen or something similar to hold the ruffle in place for a few second while the glue dries. Continue this process until shade is covered. I placed the ruffles very close together because I wanted it to look extra fluffy and pretty.

You did it! You made a thing! xox

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